Comments on: Creating Your Business Swagger http://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=creating-your-business-swagger Thu, 24 May 2012 19:40:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: Brian Coxhttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-2467 Brian Cox Tue, 23 Mar 2010 08:10:18 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-2467 I'm glad that you mentioned the points about your hands and the tip about looking between the eyes. I did leave some stuff out, you're right. The point about not interrupting is also a good one to practice, sometimes we are so excited that we jump the gun which expresses disrespect. I'm glad that you mentioned the points about your hands and the tip about looking between the eyes. I did leave some stuff out, you're right. The point about not interrupting is also a good one to practice, sometimes we are so excited that we jump the gun which expresses disrespect.

]]> By: Brian Coxhttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-2022 Brian Cox Tue, 23 Mar 2010 04:10:18 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-2022 I'm glad that you mentioned the points about your hands and the tip about looking between the eyes. I did leave some stuff out, you're right. The point about not interrupting is also a good one to practice, sometimes we are so excited that we jump the gun which expresses disrespect. I'm glad that you mentioned the points about your hands and the tip about looking between the eyes. I did leave some stuff out, you're right. The point about not interrupting is also a good one to practice, sometimes we are so excited that we jump the gun which expresses disrespect.

]]> By: Clinton Skakunhttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-3455 Clinton Skakun Sun, 14 Mar 2010 19:59:00 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-3455 It's funny when you walk in the mall and look at how everyone walks, it's easy to tell what they are thinking. If you copy the way they walk you begin to feel the same way. Same thing goes for the mirroring of other body language. We judge by appearance but I think we also evaluate a person by the way they carry themselves. The body features you describe here are somewhat related to the alpha male features displayed in dating or when showing dominance. All people of both sexes are attracted to confident, comfortable people. And I think it's important to asses your own body language and make sure it matches the kind of outward perception you want other people to have of you. Like mentioned by Mr. Drucker, clothing plays a part as well. For instance, I notice that red makes me feel extremely confident and energetic. Wearing clothes that are the right size, clean, new and in style is like a rudder that steers the whole ship of what mental state you have.Clinton It’s funny when you walk in the mall and look at how everyone walks, it’s easy to tell what they are thinking. If you copy the way they walk you begin to feel the same way. Same thing goes for the mirroring of other body language. We judge by appearance but I think we also evaluate a person by the way they carry themselves. The body features you describe here are somewhat related to the alpha male features displayed in dating or when showing dominance. All people of both sexes are attracted to confident, comfortable people. And I think it’s important to asses your own body language and make sure it matches the kind of outward perception you want other people to have of you. Like mentioned by Mr. Drucker, clothing plays a part as well. For instance, I notice that red makes me feel extremely confident and energetic. Wearing clothes that are the right size, clean, new and in style is like a rudder that steers the whole ship of what mental state you have.

Clinton

]]> By: Andrew Hillhttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-1982 Andrew Hill Sat, 13 Mar 2010 22:16:14 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-1982 Good stuff, I have a bit of interest in body language and subconscious and whatnot too. I'm surprised you left out arms, and legs and hand positions. You talk about using hands as visual cues but don't mention that if you're listening to not fold your arms, place them near your crotch, etc which are all defensive body language positions, especially when the arms are stiff. Keep legs and arms loose and with arms a bit turned so the under side is more exposed, this shows a more relaxed posture etc. Also when listening if you can't stare into the eyes, look between their eyebrows, its very rare someone can tell the difference. Also try to lean forward a bit and not interrupt people while they are speaking to you, you'll make them feel like a million bucks. Granted, all this is much easier said than done.<br><br>Forcing yourself to at the very least "pretend" to have this swagger and relaxed air can actually convince yourself that you do due to muscle memory and associated thoughts and stuff. Interesting to say the least. "What got you here, won't get you there" by Marshall Goldsmith has some great info on this stuff as well (more in terms of listening)<br><br>Good stuff,<br>-Andrew Good stuff, I have a bit of interest in body language and subconscious and whatnot too. I'm surprised you left out arms, and legs and hand positions. You talk about using hands as visual cues but don't mention that if you're listening to not fold your arms, place them near your crotch, etc which are all defensive body language positions, especially when the arms are stiff. Keep legs and arms loose and with arms a bit turned so the under side is more exposed, this shows a more relaxed posture etc. Also when listening if you can't stare into the eyes, look between their eyebrows, its very rare someone can tell the difference. Also try to lean forward a bit and not interrupt people while they are speaking to you, you'll make them feel like a million bucks. Granted, all this is much easier said than done.

Forcing yourself to at the very least “pretend” to have this swagger and relaxed air can actually convince yourself that you do due to muscle memory and associated thoughts and stuff. Interesting to say the least. “What got you here, won't get you there” by Marshall Goldsmith has some great info on this stuff as well (more in terms of listening)

Good stuff,
-Andrew

]]> By: Brian Coxhttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-1977 Brian Cox Fri, 12 Mar 2010 22:47:23 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-1977 I have a great interest in the subject, I've spent a lot of time reading psychological articles which focus on the subtle pieces of our body language. After a while its very easy to read social cues, I find it especially helpful when important conversations happen to take a wrong turn. It is essential to keep those business contacts not only interested but comfortable. <br><br>Once I did some research I found it easy to pick up the cues from observing people I interacted with, I saw the changes in body language and adjusted the topic of the conversation or my own body language to ease the emotions of the other person. I have a great interest in the subject, I've spent a lot of time reading psychological articles which focus on the subtle pieces of our body language. After a while its very easy to read social cues, I find it especially helpful when important conversations happen to take a wrong turn. It is essential to keep those business contacts not only interested but comfortable.

Once I did some research I found it easy to pick up the cues from observing people I interacted with, I saw the changes in body language and adjusted the topic of the conversation or my own body language to ease the emotions of the other person.

]]> By: MattWilsontvhttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-1965 MattWilsontv Fri, 12 Mar 2010 05:24:16 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-1965 Hey Brian, great article--I like the pic. How do you know all this stuff about body language?<br><br>Thanks for sharing your insights. Hey Brian, great article–I like the pic. How do you know all this stuff about body language?

Thanks for sharing your insights.

]]> By: Jared O'Toolehttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-1962 Jared O'Toole Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:19:38 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-1962 The eyes point is great. You can definitely get a feel for someone right when they look at you. The confidence is either there or it isn't. <br><br>I also think the shoulders play a big role. Keep that posture up and you will come off a lot stronger. The eyes point is great. You can definitely get a feel for someone right when they look at you. The confidence is either there or it isn't.

I also think the shoulders play a big role. Keep that posture up and you will come off a lot stronger.

]]> By: Brian Coxhttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-1957 Brian Cox Fri, 12 Mar 2010 00:44:55 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-1957 That is a great point. Clothing says a lot about a person, even if it isn't the most expensive suit on the block. Special attention should be made to make sure we are dressed properly for any occasion. That is a great point. Clothing says a lot about a person, even if it isn't the most expensive suit on the block. Special attention should be made to make sure we are dressed properly for any occasion.

]]> By: Chris C. Duckerhttp://under30ceo.com/creating-your-business-swagger/#comment-1938 Chris C. Ducker Thu, 11 Mar 2010 10:41:57 +0000 http://under30ceo.com/?p=3356#comment-1938 Great article. Really good points - especially on the eyes...<br><br>But, don't forget attire. What we wear in any given situation can mean a lot... Great article. Really good points – especially on the eyes…

But, don't forget attire. What we wear in any given situation can mean a lot…

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