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The Secrets to Finding Women as an Entrepreneur

| August 25, 2009 | 38 Comments

We all have our needs. Entrepreneurs are no different but don’t always have the luxury of the office happy hour or meeting someone through a co-worker. Moving home and bootstrapping a business can put a nix in the social life. Especially for many young entrepreneurs who leave the always promising college scene. However entrepreneurs by nature are innovators and think outside the box. Why should sex be any different? Its time to examine where to meet that special someone or maybe just achieve that special night while rocking it out as a young entrepreneur.

1. Conferences

A conference does not have to be all business.  You arer around thousands of people with the same interests as you! So now you already have something to talk about and you know you will have something in common. You are supposed to be networking anyway so turn those conversations into something more.

Seek opportunity and find out where all of the attendees are staying. Many times there will be 1 or 2 hotels in the area putting everyone up. Find your way back to the hotels or at least the general area. Guaranteed the people at the hotel bar or nearby bars will be there for the conference so strike up some conversation.

2. Hold a Tweet-up

Don’t wait for a meet-up. Make your own situation! The best part about hosting the event is that everyone will meet and know you. This not only lets you talk with everyone but gives a little boost to that aura you give off. Women will like the fact that you are the leader.

Even if your dream girl doesn’t show at the tweet-up it can serve as a good chance to meet people in your area. Make some new friends and get into some new social groups. Before you know it you will be meeting everyone out at a bar and will be introduced to your dream girl through them.

Use Twtvite to post your event and spread the word on twitter.  And yes, go ahead and invite some of those cute girls you’ve met on twitter. This kind of networking meet-up will be a lot more comfortable then asking them out directly.

3. Leverage friends with jobs

The ones who were so (un) fortunate to get jobs probably live in cities. Now it’s time to take advantage of this and go to their office happy hour or meet some of their co-workers.  This works especially well if its in the area your living or the area you are planning on moving to. That makes for easy conversation and it gets you into some social groups for when you make that move.

You will stand out from those friends who work in the corporate world because you are simply a little different then everyone else in the crowd. You will have different things to talk about and the ladies will be interested in your story. Remember your story? A story is not just important for a company’s brand and image but your story can be a huge player in your social life.

4. Coffee shops/Book stores

Here is the true test of your confidence. Approach random women at coffee shops or book stores. Just ask if you can have a seat (best done if they are not already with a guy). It’s great to get out and spend days working in other locations that have wifi so learn to multi task on these trips.

Keep your eyes open. You won’t have an opportunity everyday so don’t worry if you go home empty handed or if you got shut down.  It’s all about the confidence here and the effort that is put in. Try different places and just go for it. Nobody will kill you just because you think they are cute.

5. Gym

The gym is all about staying healthy and in shape. What better place to look for hot girls then where they all go to workout?! So suck it up and make a workout plan. You don’t have to be some crazed meathead but just go for runs and start toning up.

Try going at different times. You never know who you will bump into. Maybe it will be another gym goer or even an employee. The trainers and girls at the front desks are rarely bad to look at.

The kicker is even if you don’t find a girl here you will improve not only your health but appearance which could very well lead to success in other situations.

6. Hold an Event

Time to really play up the whole young CEO thing. Hold a company event! Put something awesome together for your audience and fans. Work with a trendy bar or restaurant and workout a deal to fill up the place on a Wednesday night. Again you will be the leader who everyone wants to meet and looks up to. Not a bad position to be in. Make sure everyone knows you are the one holding the event. Maybe give a quick speech or presentation welcoming everyone. Use it to connect and network with your audience but keep those eyes open for that special girl.

Want to spice things up? Hire some models to hang out at the event or maybe to serve food/drinks. Guess who will get to meet all the models?

7. Bars

Get out! Hit the town and see what happens. Forget the guys pulling the “I’m a Doctor” or “I’m a stockbroker” lines.” You’re a damn CEO! You run a company big or small it doesn’t matter. Make yourself sound like a million bucks with that awesome story of how you got started and where you are going. The ladies will be pushing those other guys aside before you know it.

Maybe you will bump into someone you know or maybe it will just be your lucky night. It sure as hell won’t happen sitting at home!

8. Friends

Don’t be shy about it. Ask people you know if they have anyone you could meet. Girls love making introductions and setting people up. So utilize any girls you hangout with or your friends girlfriends.

This is also the time to strike up conversations with girls you know but may never have been great friends with. Get in touch with the ones you know are in your area and see where it leads with their friends or introductions they might come up with.

9. Your school

If you are still only a couple years out good chance there is someone you could dig up in your schools area. Make a trip and stay with them for a few days. Its the type of thing that can’t hurt and you will definitely meet some ladies in a college town. Learn to say you’re a CEO with confidence. College girls are used to meeting guys who dream of being CEO’s but now they will be meeting one who is!

10. Online dating

It’s not a bad thing. Lots of people use it and use it successfully.  Most people on these sites are simply new to the area and looking for people to connect with. Imagine the excitement they will have when they find out that cheesy dating site led them to a rockstar entrepreneur.

You’d be surprised how many nice ladies are looking for someone in that small town of yours.

The end all is confidence. It doesn’t matter if your business has made a dime. You are a CEO so act like it. So many people base success on the size of your wallet but the real success is the fact that you took that risk and are doing your own thing.

The fact that you own your own company will be interesting to girls. It’s a huge talking point! It’s different, adventurous, and sexy. But it all comes down to what you believe. If you believe in yourself and your company you will succeed with women in any of the above situations.


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  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    It's time to grow up and tell the ladies you are a CEO, you know, just mention it loudly in public places. No need to yell it out like you have turrets–you'll be surprised how audibly those 3 letters travel across the room. Women have an ear for that.

    “The always promising college scene” I love it.

  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Jared, a lot of good language in the post–i'm impressed. Somehow, I don't think writing this article was like pulling teeth.

    “Just ask if you can have a seat (best done if they are not already with a guy)”.–not that we haven't tried

    BTW, U30: I taught Jared everything he knows…

  • http://Under30CEO.com Jared O'Toole

    Many years of experience made this article easy to write. Its nice you try to take credit while I see you writing down notes from the article as you read it.

  • http://twitter.com/dvdwlsh David Walsh

    Confidently referring to yourself as an entrepreneur makes you ridiculously attractive. It also nicely filters out the 2-dimensional women that have no idea what they want, or blindly cling to any basic stability. These are the ones glancing at car keys and pulling your ATM receipt from the trash to check the balance. These women will never feel themselves thrown back into the buttersoft leather seat of your Ferrari, because they were too concerned with finding out if you could afford one. CEO is a state of mind, and nothing can top it.

    Dare: Sit down next to a woman, and with a straight face say 3 words and nothing more: “I'm the boss.” (ala the SNL skit http://bit.ly/TVydx)

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  • http://twitter.com/leprecoceferoce Carrie Yutzy

    What about women entrepreneurs looking for men? No tips for us?

    And here’s one more to add to your list: Most of us prefer to be called “women,” not “girls.”

  • http://Under30CEO.com Jared O'Toole

    Great to hear you like it! The risks for an entrepreneur come in all aspects of life! And I like the dare!

  • http://Under30CEO.com Jared O’Toole

    Didnt mean to leave out women tips! I wrote what I know best. Thats what happens when a couple of guys start a magazine I guess haha.

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  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Under30CEO dirty networking tip: Give a woman your number on the back of a ballin' ATM receipt. If you're real desperate photoshop your balance.

  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Carrie, want to write an article on how to snag your CEO man? I'm sure we wouldn't mind giving women tips on how to pick us up…

  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Under30CEO dirty networking tip: Give a woman your number on the back of a ballin' ATM receipt. If you're real desperate photoshop your balance.

  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Carrie, want to write an article on how to snag your CEO man? I'm sure we wouldn't mind giving women tips on how to pick us up…

  • http://twitter.com/ddub_a_u dianawright

    If Carrie isn't game, I just might be. Let me know though, I don't want her to miss her opportunity!

  • http://twitter.com/foodphilosophy Jennifer Iannolo

    I think you all need my help. Good god.

  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Hey DW, I'll let you know about the article, I think it'd be a lot of fun.

  • http://twitter.com/foodphilosophy Jennifer Iannolo

    Don’t be surprised by the kind of woman you get, then. ;)

  • http://Under30CEO.com Jared O’Toole

    haha o jennifer you know were right! pulling the I’m a CEO card is the most powerful line out there. Well maybe besides I’m derek jeter.

  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Thanks Jennifer, I’m looking forward to your article, I’m going to touch it up in the morning and we’ll go from there.

  • pillowchats

    what about supermarkets, the park, home depot…

  • http://Under30CEO.com Jared O'Toole

    Great suggestions! We need some of your advice on under30ceo

  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Home Depot? hmm…maybe a damsel in distress…there could be a play here.

  • http://www.pillowchats.com/ pillowchats

    Jared – Thanks!
    Matt – there is a lot of play there!

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  • June

    More and more under 30 CEO , entrepreneurs, those young people skip college started their own business at young age…a recent movie about this named ” The YES Movie” Some interesting stories of today business world.
    http://www.TheYESmovie.com Louis Lautman.

  • http://under30ceo.com MattWilsontv

    Hi June, absolutely, although I’ve never seen it, the trailer pumps me up every time I think about it. I like the way they highlight the sexiness of entrepreneurship and sell the dream of going out and grabbing the bull by the horns.

  • http://madnessisay.com/ liv

    As a female entrepreneur, I can honestly say that by the time I get to a bar, I really don't want to talk about business. I also don't want to hear how great you are, about your struggle, and what you've achieved. Just be yourself. Stop marketing for a minute. Stop selling yourself. Just be you.

    Oh, and also know when to write “you're” versus “your.” :-)

  • http://Under30CEO.com Jared O'Toole

    Great point. Just be yourself. Owning a business won't make up for your awful personality but it is a cool thing to say that brings something different to the table for most people.

    Writing tip noted!

  • Anonymous

    Seriously?

  • http://www.samdiener.com Sam Diener

    YES!!!!!

  • Bun

    So a woman is only worth something if she’s interested in a CEO or is a model? You do realize there are female CEOs and heads of companies right? Women are even capable of crazy professions like being a lawyer. Perhaps these women want something more than a man yelling “I’m a CEO” in a crowded room.

    Though I suppose this is the wrong forum to bring up these points considering you’re calling grown women “girls.”

  • http://Under30CEO.com Jared O’Toole

    Think you took the post a little out of context. This one just happens to be finding women, we have a finding men coming soon. Overall point is just having confidence, don’t hide that your a CEO. A lot of young ceo’s are broke as hell but the point is your doing something different by starting a company and in that regard you are already successful.

  • http://www.samdiener.com Sam Diener

    Bun…. And I agree with the need for this post. Most people would think I have more free time because “I do my own thing…” And thereby would have more time to date. Point of fact, haven't been on a date in two months. AGGGGHH!!!! I'm cute right?

  • http://WhosChrisHughes.com Chris Hughes

    As a Senior in University, I find that meeting girls is easiest in classes and in the library. I had been in a long term relationship(3 years) and got out of it about 3 months ago. The relationship was awesome, I didn't have a lot of free time being a student/ceo and found that I could really enjoy the time spent with her. However, things change and i'll be moving south upon graduation so we parted ways still remaining friends.

    Now I feel like I don't have any time for a relationship because I need to devote more time to building my business. You do however you bring up good places to meet the type of women that I'd be interested in seeing; intelligent and beautiful business savvy is the way to go.

    One thing I'd have to disagree with is meeting women in bars, I have yet to meet a girl at a bar that I have developed into an actual friendship/relationship. Meeting a girl and THEN taking her to a bar can help further develop the relationship (allows you guys to relax and unwind)

    Even though I was in a serious relationship, I would still meet women whenever I went out and found that to this day the best line to meet a women is “hey, what's up?”. Nothing more, nothing less. Many friends use corny pick-up lines but I find that just being myself and kind of kicking back/relaxing and just talking allows me to learn whether or not she is worth spending more time with.

  • http://WhosChrisHughes.com Chris Hughes

    As a Senior in University, I find that meeting girls is easiest in classes and in the library. I had been in a long term relationship(3 years) and got out of it about 3 months ago. The relationship was awesome, I didn't have a lot of free time being a student/ceo and found that I could really enjoy the time spent with her. However, things change and i'll be moving south upon graduation so we parted ways still remaining friends.

    Now I feel like I don't have any time for a relationship because I need to devote more time to building my business. You do however you bring up good places to meet the type of women that I'd be interested in seeing; intelligent and beautiful business savvy is the way to go.

    One thing I'd have to disagree with is meeting women in bars, I have yet to meet a girl at a bar that I have developed into an actual friendship/relationship. Meeting a girl and THEN taking her to a bar can help further develop the relationship (allows you guys to relax and unwind)

    Even though I was in a serious relationship, I would still meet women whenever I went out and found that to this day the best line to meet a women is “hey, what's up?”. Nothing more, nothing less. Many friends use corny pick-up lines but I find that just being myself and kind of kicking back/relaxing and just talking allows me to learn whether or not she is worth spending more time with.

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  • Sara

    Was pretty excited about this site until I came across this sexist rubbish – I actually thought the title was referring to how to find more women *to hire*. What about all the female under 30 CEOs (or aspiring CEOs in my case) you’re alienating with this article? That Twitter graphic is so objectifying as is your advice on hiring models for a Tweetup (like the creepy ‘guess who gets to meet the models’ addition, nice). Also, if a guy pulled the ‘I’m a CEO’ card on me I would think he was one thing…desperate.

    The fact that you create this bizarre 70s mentality binary (young CEOs = young MALE CEOs, where as women couldn’t possible be doing *the exact same thing as you*) is really weird, considering this is meant to be a site for younger people. If this wasn’t your intention, then you should have chosen your wording better, been less creepy with your tips and made sure you highlighted the fact that a post relevant to women would be coming soon (although I fail to see how it would be any different for female CEOs so I don’t really know where you’re going to go with that). You may say you’re ‘writing what you know’ but if you can’t imagine that there are women in your audience that’s kind of worrying.

    The fact that you don’t seem to be responding to criticism from female members who like me are kind of offended by this archaic form of sexism with any modicum of understanding makes think this yet another business boys club. Disappointed.