Most relationships fail miserably. Why? Boredom has a lot to do with it. We’re a generation diagnosed with ADD. I think the poet Jay-Z said it best, “I’m on to the next one, on to the next” in On To The Next One. Also, relationships require work and working sucks. There’s the active listening part, then actioning what you were asked to do and finally being admonished for what you didn’t do right. You lose on all sides. Ultimately, you’ll find you deserve better although you have no clue what that is.
How do you figure it out? I’m glad you asked.
In short, you quit: you end your relationship, stop chasing perfection, and break up with your boss. In life, love and career you walk away and never look back. Of course, it’s easier said than done and that’s why I created a FREE ebook to help you plan your exit Before You Quit Your Job. And don’t be fooled by the rocks you were promised but don’t got, you need to leave.
According to my people watching skills, 97% of relationships last too long. Either we go blind and fail to find the new, get too comfortable where we land, feel too insecure to move on or a combination of all three. We shortchange our potential for happiness, and no where is this more obvious than at work.
Let’s be honest for a second, most people hate their jobs. You and I are waiting for the weekend, and there will never be enough days to recuperate from office politics, water color conversation and mismanagement. Why wait for Saturday and Sunday to have fun? I think it’s time you break up with your boss.
Lack of Commitment (aka Cheating)
I’m going to go out on a limb here and assume you’ve looked around. How do I know? Because none of us are working for the same company for more than four years. Loyalty? Yes, we’re incredibly loyal to the pursuit of our purpose – not the profits of your company.
Maybe it’s coffee with an old colleague working at an exciting new startup or it’s a message from a LinkedIn recruiter, but networking, casual conversations and a little flirting never hurt anyone. It’s only cheating if you get caught and, at this point, there’s no harm in looking around.
Too Much Talk (aka Social media syndrome)
Look and you will find everyone doing better than you. Thanks to Facebook and Instagram, we’re keeping up with the kardashians and living the life of the rich and famous online. There’s this rush to do better, including a bigger office, better title and a bonus that can buy you attention.
Social media will have you stressed out, but it’s also motivating. You don’t want to be the one without. Even if you never post a status about your success, seeing the professional accomplishments of others is a reminder of your potential. Ask yourself, what happens to a dream deferred?
Fairy Tale Fantasies (aka Unrealistic expectations)
Life becomes Neverland when you wait too long to live. You forget how to fly. Eight hours feels like forever, and every week is a reminder of what’s missing.
Wake up. Facebook and fifteen minute bathroom breaks will only kill so much time. Turn the page and set the stage for what’s next. It gets better, but not by accident. No prince or princess is coming to save you. Frankly, you don’t even need saving. What you need is a new normal that a new job can provide. Stop playing to the expectations of some old man in a corner office. Find your next assignment.
Catfished (aka What did I sign up for?)
You were sold a story, and you bought it. It probably began with opportunities for career growth, exciting projects where you were promised complete autonomy and the traveling. Remember, you were supposed to see the world on the company dime! Turns out it was mostly a lie. So now what?
Tell yourself a different story.
You get to play the hero and start over. You get to change it up and create something better than before. I think it was Spider Man that said, “with great power, comes great responsibility.” You have the power to leave, why wait?
I created a FREE ebook to help you plan your exit Before You Quit Your Job. It takes courage to grow up and become who you are, and this is your chance. It doesn’t happen overnight, but right now is the right time to begin. It’s time to break up with your boss.
Michael Peggs likes to think of himself as a Chief Branding Officer (CBO), daring young professionals to define their personal brands and go after their dreams. Your Personal Brand is how you market and sell yourself to others. His blog, online courses and weekly YouTube show helps Gen Y package their talents to stand out in a crowd. You can reach Peggs by visiting Michaelpeggs.com.
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