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5 Ways To Crush Limiting Beliefs

| September 16, 2013 | 26 Comments

Take the Leap

We’ve all thought at some point in our life and maybe even today that we aren’t good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, or educated enough.  We don’t have enough money, the right relationships, enough time, knowledge, or energy to accomplish our goals, pursue our dreams or live a life of fulfillment.  But the reality is all of that is BS.  Our only limitation is our ability to identify the illusions we ourselves have created.  The fear, doubt, confusion, and pain that consumes our mind, our life, and our results is a hidden belief that is reflected by us through other people.

Today I want to share with you 5 ways to crush your limiting beliefs, BS excuses, and the story you’ve told yourself for so long you believe it’s reality so you can identify, change, and influence others to do the same, while living a life of extreme confidence and clarity.

Jump off the cliff

Imagine standing at the bottom of a cliff while your friend gets ready to jump off you’re screaming and shouting “you can do it,” “come on” and suddenly he jumps.  When he gets to the bottom he says now it’s your turn.  You head up the cliff and what was an emotional high minutes ago when you were at the bottom has now turned into a deliberating fear as you look down.  As you harness up thoughts start racing through your mind “what if my parachute doesn’t deploy?” “What if I hit a tree or rock?” “I can’t do this it’s too far down” “What if…What if…What if?”  It’s suddenly an endless stream of fear, doubt, and anxiety.  The same fear, doubt and anxiety your friend was feeling when you were screaming “You can do this.”  You suddenly realize there are only two options take off the harness and trek the gear down the cliff, but that would be a lot of work after all you just got up here or jump.  You make the decision to jump and seconds later you’re free falling through the sky enjoying the scenery, and as you hit the bottom you’re thinking that wasn’t so hard.  Actually that was fun I want to do it again.  Each time you do it, it gets easier and easier.  You’re no longer analyzing what could happen but enjoying the adrenaline, excitement, energy and fun of accomplishing your goal.  As Tony Robbins says ‘It is in our moments of decision that our destiny is shaped.”

It is these same decisions small or big that we make every day that cause us fear, pain and anxiety or fun, excitement, and joy.  It is this emotional intensity that dictates our actions and results.  So how do you crush your limiting beliefs?

Demolish Doubt

Step into uncertainty and make a new decision.  Our minds our unlimited the only limit we have is the one we put on ourselves.  We choose our emotions and our results.   Instead of driving yourself into an emotional pit, wasting time, not taking action and feeling the pain of regret get ahold of the demon of doubt and KILL IT!  Find the hidden belief.  Question it and shift the illusion.  The truth is the opposite of doubt; it is this emotional intensity that makes shit happen.

Create Confidence

The reality of stepping into the unknown, into the uncertainty, and fear is the only way to create confidence and receive emotional confirmation that the decision you made was the right decision.  Confidence is an internal value leading to the love, freedom, abundance, clarity, and the energy you need to maximize results and fulfillment in all aspects of life.  Raphael Robertson said it best “A comfort zone is a casket.”

Get Clear

The best feeling in the world is the essence of knowing who we are and why we are here.  All value is emotional.  Owning who you are, creating an authentic message, and committing to your highest potential will give you confirmation that all fear, doubt, and confusion is an illusion.  An illusion limiting your ability to influence.  Influence is the effect on character, development, or behavior of someone or something.

Have a Compelling Reason Why

Your message and passion is the reason you are here.  It’s not always about your presentation but rather your presence.  Nothing great ever happens without a compelling reason why.  Think about all of the reasons why you want to make a difference, all the reasons why your family deserves better, and your bank account deserves more, then use that to influence every decision you make.

Most Importantly Take Action

Knowledge without action is meaningless and action is truly the only way to crush limiting beliefs. Next time you are looking for a quick fix, an easy way out, or convenient path to take remember the only quick fix is taking massive action!  And remember if you need help get a coach.

Melissa Krivachek President of Briella Arion is  committed to helping executives and entrepreneurs across the globe Break-Thru*  limiting beliefs to create 6 & 7 figure businesses doing what they love,  whatever that may be. Known as the female Tony Robbins her practical, simplistic  approach has made her one of the top 10 leadership and personal growth experts  in the world under 30. With a focus on mindset, internal/external confidence,  communication & leadership training her clients get massive, immediate,  long-term sustainable results.

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About the Author: Melissa Krivachek

Melissa Krivachek is the President of Briella Arion, Inc. As the International Best-Selling Author of BOLD! Helping You Unleash The Hero Within, Be A Baller! The Blueprint To Have It All, and, Be Ballsy! How Not To Suck At Love, Success, and Happiness. she loves teaching entrepreneurs across the globe how they can have it all —, all at the same time. Love, Success, & Happiness. Chosen as Evolution Magazine’s “Power Player Under 40” honored by the National Council of American Executives as the Top 1% of US Executives in 2014 and featured on CNN, Forbes, ABC, NBC, CBS, CW, and FOX, in addition to receiving dozens of other accolades, Melissa’s passion for growth resonates with entrepreneurs looking to break-through the ceiling of complexity to build sustainable million dollar + businesses.

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  • Paul Bradley Smith

    Thank you very kindly for this write up. I really enjoyed this. Sincerely fellow blogger http://www.paulbradleysmith.com

  • Melissa Krivachek

    Paul you are very welcome! What was it about this article that you enjoyed the most?

  • Kevin Diamond

    Unbelievable article! Demolishing doubt and zoning in on your core focus. I love the concept of stepping into fear to determine if your decision was right. Really enjoyed reading this!

    “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”


  • Karisa

    Jump off the cliff – LOVE THIS! Melissa, thank you for writing this, it is a clear guide on telling fear to F off. :)

  • Carrie Leigh Sandoval

    This was so clear. As I was reading I was thinking man this person must be a coach. Sure enough, I was right. Great stuff. Thanks so much for the simple yet really deep content. I’m inspired!

  • Melissa Krivachek

    Karisa AMEN if we all told that to fear imagine how much more successful we would each be :) Glad you enjoyed the article!

  • Melissa Krivachek

    Carrie you are very welcome! What became clear as you were reading this? Do you feel like you personally have some limiting beliefs that you wanted to crush that compelled you to read this :) Would love to hear your thoughts.

  • Melissa Krivachek

    KJ Glad you thought the article was unbelievable :) The praise is greatly appreciated. Would love to hear what the #1 limiting belief you have is? Always curious to see what others fears, doubts, and self beliefs are.

  • Carrie Leigh Sandoval

    There you go being a great coach again! It was just a reminder of what I already know. I work a lot with beliefs and I’m phenomenal at recognizing limiting beliefs in others, but do tend to be trapped by them sometimes still. It was what I needed to read in that moment to realize I was just having some thoughts I’ve had for a long time and it was okay and I have the power and choice to do something different. Reading the article allowed me to take back my power.

  • Melissa Krivachek

    Carrie That’s Awesome! Taking back your power is a great way to tap into your full potential and do epic shit in the world :) We all tend to be trapped by our own self limiting beliefs from time to time. I’ll have to admit I got called out earlier this week on a limiting belief in a personal relationship. It’s those uncomfortable moments that make us even more comfortable with who we are. Since you are great at recognizing limiting beliefs curious to know Are you a coach yourself?

  • Carrie Leigh Sandoval

    I intend to do epic shit for sure! Thank you for being open, honest and willing to look at your own beliefs (publicly, at that). I feel like that’s the way to truly have an impact and I’m so happy you’re doing it in a really big way! And yes, I am a coach too. :)

  • Carrie Leigh Sandoval

    Just added you on facebook. I see we have several mutual friends. This makes sense.

  • Melissa Krivachek


    We do! :)

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  • Kevin Diamond

    I’ve stepped out of my comfort zone and found being myself, embracing “me” pursuing my passions is propelling me forward as a person and as an entrepreneur. I’m excelling by doing “me” and being true to my core values. My only current limiting belief is that I question if this is valid or efficient in other aspects of life, besides business, i.e. love, relationships, etc. I’m testing the waters. I actually wrote a blog about this tonight, because the question was eating at me! http://kevinjdiamond.com/love-inspired-moraldilemma/

    Curious to know what fears/doubts you’ve had, faced, and pushed past!

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  • Melissa Krivachek


    So first off kudos to exploring and entertaining the idea that following your passions and getting out of your comfort zone is valid beyond business. Here’s my thoughts on that as I am in the process of killing this limiting belief myself in relationships/love. In order to be uncomfortable you have to be sentimental, emotional, real, and true to yourself. Going through life with the idea of should’ve, could’ve, would’ve isn’t ideal and when you don’t step out and express your emotion toward the female then you don’t know how they will/are going to react.

    Let me preface this by saying I am obsessed with personal growth and I thought I was great at building relationships, and while I was at business relationships. I wasn’t so much at personal/intimate relationships because it comes off as masculine energy and no guy is attracted to that. Currently going out with a celeb is the absolute most difficult thing ever! LOL Because he is pushing me to be greater, asking me to do things far, far beyond my comfort zone, expecting me to step up and let my guard down, and really challenging me to give up all of the BS beliefs about how I need to be “tough.” This is defiantly one of the fears/doubts I have because being well known myself I don’t want “public humiliation” if something weren’t to work out. But then I guess it’s the risk worth taking if I do fall in love and have an amazing life with him.

    Do I think you can break past this fear? YES! Is it going to be easy? HELL NO! Actually hardest thing you’ll ever do. But it is and will be worth it in the long run :)

  • Kevin Diamond

    This is so awesome, Melissa! Thanks for the encouragement and bravo to you as well! Smashing these beliefs 1 by 1 is our way at excelling and crushing life. Would love to stay up to date with your progress!! :) Cheers!

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  • Melissa Krivachek


    Awww….Thanks! Defiantly. Let’s connect on FB feel free to send me a request http://www.facebook.com/briellaarion :) I know you are doing a crowd funding campaign to join Under30Experiences looking forward to seeing you accomplish that and join the team. On another note your interaction and articles are awesome!

  • Kevin Diamond

    Hi Melissa,

    FB Connection made :) we are officially friends ;) Haha, aww thank you so much!! Everyone talks about the importance of community, belonging, effects of being around like-minded ambitious people, yet so many rely on accelerator programs and other substructures to find them. Through a little bravado and serendipity I was lucky enough to find that | *here* | thanks to #Under30 :)

    And I will be sure to keep you posted on the U30X trip! Talk soon!

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  • Guest

    Great arti

  • http://www.dancingthroughthestorms.com/ Diane Allinson

    Great article. We can have all the skills we need, but get nowhere until we get out of our own way