So I was on fire this morning at 3 a.m. after this guy decided to give his opinion about the title of my book “Be Ballsy! How Not To Suck At Love, Success, & Happiness” in a comment thread on FB that had absolutely nothing to do with the actual status update. In fact the status was about discipline but he placed the comment in that particular thread based on the number of responses and attention he would get. I’ve personally spoken with him for several hours and know that by no means is he successful, nor has he sold any books, and while he’s looking for a way to pay the bills because he’s on government assistance, I’m making a living doing what I’m incredibly passionate about. I’m using this example of why you should stop giving your damn opinion if you haven’t walked the talk and have ZERO interest in doing so.
One of the things that really got me going was him recommending that I read a book about the law of attraction and while that’s great there’s no point in reading if you aren’t consistently taking action and getting results. I read up to five books a week and I’ve been in business full time for the last three years. He then went on to post an update on his wall talking about how he was smarter than me and I couldn’t take constructive criticism. (Notice his behavior pattern)
Recently I moved into my 3,700 sq. dream home and have made a decision this year that I will not take BS from people who are unwilling to make the sacrifice and commitment necessary to get the results they want in their life and business. I have no problem cutting people off, burning bridges, and disconnecting from those who aren’t incredibly passionate and serious about finding love, success, and happiness.
This status got him deleted/blocked and I make no apologies (he eventually did apologize via text and I appreciate that) but I do want to create a lesson from this because when you reach up you are forced to grow up and preform at higher standards than ever before. Let me explain over the past three years I’ve developed incredible relationships with some of the most successful people in the world and this type of behavior is completely unacceptable in their world for multiple reasons.
1) They understand it’s business and take nothing personally
2) They know that if they were influenced by this behavior it would negatively impact both them and their business
3) They understand spending time analyzing this type of behavior wastes their most valuable asset
4) They simply don’t have time to deal with petty issues such as this and it’s easier to burn bridges and move on
I can’t condone this type of behavior.
I think it’s ridiculous, childish, and unacceptable. You can’t reach the level of success you desire if you have to continue to put others down because you are jealous of the level of success they have reached. This post was not meant to judge him by any means because that’s not my place now nor will it ever be. I wanted to make it very clear that if you can’t, won’t or refuse to accept constructive criticism then the levels of success you will achieve will be minimal in comparison to what you could achieve if you put your ego aside and stopped thinking about competing with anyone but yourself. I believe to think competition is to think limitation. I also believe that it’s important you are open to feedback but don’t let someone else’s agenda, interpretation, or way of thinking ruin your business, way of life or thinking or life. Becoming conscious of your surroundings is the first step in reaching success.
Melissa Krivachek, has been captivating, inspiring and motivating entrepreneurs across the globe since her early twenties. Chosen as Evolution Magazine’s 2013 Power Play Under 40. Featured on CNN, Forbes, Yahoo Finance, and receiving dozens of other accolades, Melissa’s passion for personal growth resonates with audiences looking for more fulfillment in all aspects of life and business. You can have it all, all at the same time. Love, Success, & Happiness. GET THE REVOLUTION OF COACHING FREE REPORT NOW