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The Value of Knowing What You’re Worth

| April 4, 2013 | 11 Comments

Realizing Your Self Worth“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. ”

When you look good, you feel good; when you feel good you live better. This week our focus is on increasing your Self-Worth. There are many ways to increase your self-esteem but how do you get rid of the negative so you can increase your self-worth and get paid for it?

Start From Within.

We are all Enlightened Beings in disguise. Every being is born with full access to the highest peak of consciousness. The very instant you empty out your mind and take a good long look inside yourself, you’ll discover something quite amazing. You’ll realize that you are not this body, these thoughts, nor anything you can imagine with your mind. Who you really are goes beyond thinking, beyond concepts, and beyond the mind.

Create Daily Incantations.

Incantations are expressed with emotional energy, intensity, and conviction, which is also known as being in a “Peak State.” It’s best to do your incantations while standing, or even better while jogging or working out; and say them out loud. Doing so will help ensure that the meanings and the intentions of the words you’re uttering become locked into the nervous system and sink deeply into the subconscious mind, bringing about lasting and powerful life-changes.

One of my favorite Incantations:


Small Steps Make Big Differences.

Studies show the most successful people in the world who achieve fulfilled lifestyles and success actually had to take SMALL Action Steps regularly and often enough to be able to become masterful at what they do. It seems so easy from the outside, because when you become masterful at something it seems enjoyable and EFFORTLESS. When you do small actions over and over again it becomes automated, and you advance. Be aware as it also applies to not so desirable small things you do daily. These small steps can make a huge difference.

Don’t Try to Please Others.

People pleasing usually comes from a belief that other people’s happiness is more important than your own. This is a harmful belief, as it creates feelings of inferiority. Pleasing others is not the same as helping or loving them. Often things that are best for others are things that they don’t like. It is also important to meet your own needs before you worry about other people’s needs. If you are so busy trying to please other people that you don’t fulfill your own needs, you will wind up running on empty. It’s like trying to feed everyone around you, while you starve yourself. This is not only very bad for you, but you will not be much good to anyone else either if you are not strong and healthy.

Avoid Negative People & Negative Thoughts.

Negative people carry on their negativity toward you, leaving you with the same negative feelings they possess. You get dragged down into their world where you feel helpless and can`t do anything right. You`re also left with a negative attitude that will put an end to your once positive outlook on life. Avoiding negative people is important to your overall being. You can increase productivity in almost everything you do by avoiding negative people and negative thoughts.

Face Your Fears & Learn From Your Failures.

The problem with fear is simple. It robs power by distorting reality and ultimately destroys destinies. Anyone can overcome it, and when you do your break-thru* will inspire others.

Don’t Worry About Being “Perfect.”

There is no such thing.

Learn To Appreciate & Reward Yourself.

Rewarding yourself is one of the greatest ways to support motivation and focus on achieving personal success; to reinforce your confidence; and to keep you moving forward even when things get difficult. However, the tendency for most is to wait until we have achieved the ultimate goal. Meanwhile, with every actionable item we complete, there is no celebration, and sooner or later, you will run out of steam.

What are some practical steps you can easily implement to immediately increase your self-esteem and value?

Dress Nicely. Dressing well shows you respect others as well as yourself. Fashion is a method of self-expression and no one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. Great style, killer legs, and a nice smile always increase self-confidence. And, when you have it it’s hard for others not to notice. Nothing will beat the rush you get when you look in the mirror and think “Damn I look good!”

Have Good Hygiene. Take care of your personal appearance. When you care people tend to care more. Bath, shave regularly, brush your teeth, use deodorant, comb your hair, and wear clean clothes these small tasks should be done daily. Hygiene is directly linked to your self-esteem.

Practice Good Posture. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self-confidence. They often are unenthusiastic and don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

Work Out Regularly. There are many benefits to working out from sleeping better to looking better to building and maintaining healthy muscles, bones, and joints to slowing the aging process reducing the risk of disease and premature death. Working out strengthens and boosts your immune system to improve mental activity giving you more energy to accomplish more in less time. When you gain strength and stamina you feel better emotionally leading to higher levels of self-esteem ultimately increasing your value.

Give Back to Others. If you stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about the contribution you’re making you will realize the impact not only increases your own self-esteem but that of those around you. An attitude of gratitude goes a long way. Giving opens up possibilities that would otherwise not be there, it teaches you to be thankful for what you have and makes more room for you to receive more.

Isn’t it time you didn’t have to build yourself up by tearing more successful people down?

Melissa Krivachek President of Briella Arion is deeply & passionately committed to the growth & effectiveness of young leaders, teams, and organizations. Melissa is a High Caliber Leadership, Sales, and Personal Growth Expert, Author, Speaker, Coach, and Life Enthusiast! To IGNITE your Purpose, Presence, Passion, & Profit visit

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About the Author: Melissa Krivachek

Melissa Krivachek is the President of Briella Arion, Inc. As the International Best-Selling Author of BOLD! Helping You Unleash The Hero Within, Be A Baller! The Blueprint To Have It All, and, Be Ballsy! How Not To Suck At Love, Success, and Happiness. she loves teaching entrepreneurs across the globe how they can have it all —, all at the same time. Love, Success, & Happiness. Chosen as Evolution Magazine’s “Power Player Under 40” honored by the National Council of American Executives as the Top 1% of US Executives in 2014 and featured on CNN, Forbes, ABC, NBC, CBS, CW, and FOX, in addition to receiving dozens of other accolades, Melissa’s passion for growth resonates with entrepreneurs looking to break-through the ceiling of complexity to build sustainable million dollar + businesses.

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    Love the part about incantations. It is so important to speak positive and empowering words over ourselves. One thing I have noticed is when you are working in a job that you don’t love or is not your skill set it is important to involve yourself in an activity that you do excel in. You need to do something that makes you feel good about yourself and makes you aware of your strengths!

  • Michael Burns

    how about a 40,000 dollar new makeover on your wardrobe baby and honey!
    tiffany,sachs fifth avenue,gucci,prada and armani should do the job!
    good luck melissa krivachek,you slavic hot potato!mike burns

  • Melissa Krivachek

    Thanks for the positive feedback it’s greatly appreciated! We agree that if you don’t follow your passions throughout the work week you will hit burnout very quickly and eventually become depressed. We all have more than one passion and it is those things that drive us to be better than we think we are. Cheers Prime 3! ~Melissa

  • Melissa Krivachek

    Thanks Michael! ~Melissa

  • MelAnn Morales

    Love the incantation! Found you via Women of Facebook.

  • Elise

    I really need to focus on better posture. When I see other people with good posture it looks so classy. I need to work on that.

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  • Melissa Krivachek

    Thanks MelAnn!

  • Melissa Krivachek

    Hey Elise it’s not always easy having great posture. Although it does look classy there are many other health benefits to consider such as spinal alignment, better breathing and much more. Practice a couple minutes a day and you will become much better! :)

  • Jane Wanjiku

    So much power in our tongues over what we perceive ourselves to be in regard to the big picture of who we are meant to be in this life.Speak it and before long you will see yourself become. I so loved incantations part,actually my to do list everyday before i begin my day.

  • Melissa Krivachek

    Jane Thanks for the feedback. I love doing incantations right before hitting the stage it not only fires me up but it releases all of the stress and pressure one might feel before speaking. I appreciate the comment, and there is much more power in our tongue than we realize. Cheers!